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tylercoates:

flavorpill:


Women are not taken seriously… They put a man in a dress, and he’s supposed to know what it feels like to be a woman. But of course he doesn’t. I think what Dustin [Hoffman] says is, ‘I realize now how important it is for a woman to be pretty. And I wasn’t pretty.’ God! That’s all you realized? Jesus Christ. ” — Teri Garr

Dustin Hoffman’s Tootsie Tears: Let’s Stop Congratulating Men for Discovering That Sexism Exists

Ding dong! Here I am, ruining everyone’s fun again.

Thanks Tylerrrrr!

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About the larger picture, I’m mystified. Our racial bigotry has often been tied to the ignorance abetted by unfamiliarity, our homophobia to a failure to realize how many gay people we know and respect. Well, women are in the next cubicle, across the dinner table, on the other side of the bed. Almost every man has a mother he has known and probably cared about; most also have a wife, daughter, sister, aunt or niece as well. Our stubborn sexism harms and holds back them, not strangers. Still it survives.

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Why isn’t “no” enough?

Last week, I was approached on the street. Not catcalled, but approached — this guy actually pulled at the crook of my arm from behind me, even though I had sunglasses on, my earbuds in, was holding an umbrella, and was booking it down the street because I was running late to meet a friend. He opened with a dumb question — “Excuse me, where’s Union and Fifth Avenue?” I pointed at the intersection behind me that I’d just passed and said, “Uh, that’s it right there.” He said, “Oh, I know, because I work here,” and went on to compliment my appearance, saying I was one of the most beautiful women he’d ever seen, and then asked if he could take me out for a drink.

I smiled and said thank you, but no, I have a boyfriend (true).

He pushed right past that, squinted, and challenged, “Oh yeah, well, how long have you been together?” Like if we’d been together only a few months you think you might have a shot, or — what? Or do you just want to make sure I’m not giving the ol’ “boyfriend excuse”?

I said “Nine years, actually” (also true), and he eventually backed down, but not gently, saying we should come see him at the bar where he works.

I mean, dude, do I have to PROVE it to you somehow? Want me to, I don’t know, show you a picture of us together? Explain the story behind the umbrella I’m carrying since he gave it to me as a gift the first year we started dating? Because you can’t simply take me at my word — or better yet, shouldn’t ANY reaction a woman has that communicates “No” be enough?

I am a person first. Just because I have a nice ass that looks good in the tight dress I was wearing doesn’t mean — well, honestly, it doesn’t mean shit, to start with. If I wanted it to mean something, in a certain context and with my consent, it could. But it should mean absolutely nothing to you, complete stranger on the street, who had the audacity to grab at my arm like a toddler. Sure, look if you want, and appreciate it if you like, that’s fine — I’m not going to pretend men don’t look at women — but go on with your day.

I was pissed off for a while, but after about a bottle’s worth of rosé at the bar with my friend, the irritation and indignation fell away. I had bigger issues to talk about. But I remembered the feeling again today.

Argh.

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G R I M E S: I don't want to have to compromise my morals in order to make a living

actuallygrimes:

i dont want my words to be taken out of context

i dont want to be infantilized because i refuse to be sexualized

i dont want to be molested at shows or on the street by people who perceive me as an object that exists for their personal satisfaction

i dont want to live in a world where…

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This. Now.: This is a specific moment

avcnyc:

daveholmes:

Tell it, Alex Fernie. Read it, rest of y’all. 

PS: if these guys had stolen a drunk girl’s wallet, spent all her money, and then bragged about it on camera and in text messages, I’m pretty sure they’d be charged with theft. I’m pretty sure we wouldn’t be arguing about the definition of theft, or whether the penalty for theft is an appropriate thing to deal out. We know we’re not supposed to take people’s wallets and spend their money, even if they’re very drunk. We do not live in a theft culture (except for huge banks, which, you know, one thing at a time). 

ferniecommaalex:

Thanks to disgusting and/or ignorant people like the Steubenville rapists, their enablers, Todd Akin, teems of moronic internet commenters, over 20 senators voting against VAWA, and a tragically tone deaf and clueless media, we are at a specific moment in this country where we’re talking about…

I AM WAY INTO IT WHEN DUDES STAND UP AND EARNESTLY SAY REAL SHIT LIKE THIS!!! GO DUDES!!!

“The most insidious cruelty of rape is that still, in 2013, if you are the victim of a sexual assault, you carry a stigma. Too often you have to prove that no, you did not do anything to deserve it and no, you didn’t just “change your mind” after and no, men are not entitled to a women’s body just because. And if you don’t think that those are actual things that people believe well, then, you aren’t paying attention. Because those are exactly the sort of things that people have said in the aftermath of Steubenville.”

Thank you.

GO DUDES INDEED.

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CATCALLED

catcalled:

Welcome to CATCALLED, a collection of women’s stories about street harassment in New York City. For two weeks this August, eleven women in the city kept a log of their harassment experiences, and how the presence (or absence) of catcallers affected their actions. Their experiences may surprise you—they certainly surprised each other, and at times, even the participants themselves.

Street harassment is a tricky issue. Its interpretation is almost entirely subjective, and the experience of it can range from violated and frustrated to annoyed. Harassment itself is hard to define, as well. What’s the difference between harassment, a catcall, flirtation, and a compliment? At the same time, it’s difficult to argue that sexual harassment is anything but an unfair burden placed on women in urban spaces, and one that can be incessant and invasive.

Part of the story of this project has been discovering that most women have found a way to deal with harassment on a regular basis. Even if an individual woman may feel that the status quo is acceptable, she is usually able to point to precautions she takes to feel safe as a woman. Even if an individual woman feels flattered by catcalling, she can probably point to a situation in which she felt extremely vulnerable due to catcalling—probably as a young teenager. We believe that all women, in some way or another, have to grapple with objectification and safety in public spaces, whether that space is Central Park or Times Square.

CATCALLED is an attempt to give that struggle a voice. Over on the right you can see 11 different badges, one for each of our 11 participants. The women who wrote for this project live in four different boroughs and have a range of sexualities, ethnic backgrounds, and life experiences. There is no one place to start reading, no one person to focus on. Each participant has an introduction from me, giving you a sense of what you might get out of reading those entries; each woman has additionally highlighted her own entries, to reflect what she has found most valuable. After the project was over, all 11 participants responded to someone else’s logs for their exit interview, beginning a conversation about different experiences that we hope you continue. You can add to the dialogue by clicking respond. In addition to publishing questions, comments, and ideas on our blog, we will also be featuring readers’ daily logs—a single-day entry about street harassment. And of course, if you would like to contact us more directly, you can find out how to do that here.

We hope you get something out of this—men and women, in the city and out of it. We have learned a lot from beginning this dialogue, and we can’t wait to see how you respond.

Rad. Check this out.

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But the country is changing. And this may be the last election in which anyone but a fool tries to play — on a national level, at least — the cards of racial exclusion, of immigrant fear, of the patronization of women and hegemony over their bodies, of self-righteous discrimination against homosexuals. Some in the Republican party and among the teabagged fringe will continue to play such losing hands for some time to come; this shit worked well in its day and distracted many from addressing any of our essential national issues. But again, if they play that weak-ass game past this point, they are fools.

America is different now, moreso with every election cycle. Ronald Reagan won his mandate in an America in which 89 percent of the voters were white. That number is down to 72 percent and falling. Fifty thousand new Latino citizens achieve the voting age every month. America will soon belong to the men and women — white and black and Latino and Asian, Christian and Jew and Muslim and atheist, gay and straight — who can comfortably walk into a room and accept with real comfort the sensation that they are in a world of certain difference, that there are no real majorities, only pluralities and coalitions. The America in which it was otherwise is dying, thank god, and those that relied on entitlement and division to command power will either be obliged to accept the changes, or retreat to whichever gated community from which they wish to wax nostalgic and brood on political irrelevance.

David Simon, creator of “The Wire” (via alexblagg)

Amen.

(via thepathealy)

Yep!

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This isn’t the politically correct thing to say, but when we drove the mother out of the home into the workplace and replaced her with the television set, that was not a good thing.

U.S. Rep. Roscoe Bartlett, R-Md, speaking to the owner of an automotive service center during a campaign stop. (via officialssay)

Mr. Bartlett, please never say anything — “politically correct” or no — ever again. THANKS.

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poupak:

weaziller-melisasaraceni:

Swoon!

tumblinfeminist:

teen—-idle:

Ladies and Gentlemen, the Prime Minister of Australia kicking ass and taking names (mostly Tony Abbott’s). [x]

Aww yiss.

Welcome to the Julia Gillard Own Zone

Because it’s important to point things out, even when it’s not politically correct.  

You go girl.

FUCK

YEAH

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nprfreshair:

“When I started doing my solo show one of my good friends, Martha, said to me, she’s like, ‘Kamau, you can’t end racism and make sexism worse.’ And I was like, ‘What do you mean by that?’ And she went through my solo show and pointed out all the different parts of it that she felt were sexist. And that’s a good friend, a friend who will tell you that in a way that you can hear. And that was a real revelation for me is that you can’t sort of pick your issue over other people’s issues — that if you want to end the ignorance of something, you have to end all the ignorances or at least not make some of the ignorances worse.”
- W. Kamau Bell on being called out on prejudices he didn’t realize he had

WKB is good people.

nprfreshair:

“When I started doing my solo show one of my good friends, Martha, said to me, she’s like, ‘Kamau, you can’t end racism and make sexism worse.’ And I was like, ‘What do you mean by that?’ And she went through my solo show and pointed out all the different parts of it that she felt were sexist. And that’s a good friend, a friend who will tell you that in a way that you can hear. And that was a real revelation for me is that you can’t sort of pick your issue over other people’s issues — that if you want to end the ignorance of something, you have to end all the ignorances or at least not make some of the ignorances worse.”

- W. Kamau Bell on being called out on prejudices he didn’t realize he had

WKB is good people.

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To view success in comedy only through a sexualized male gaze is poison. Women don’t do comedy in order to secure a potential mate, and to look at comedy through that lens is insulting and not a little bit ignorant.

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thediscography:

theremixbaby:

If you were wondering why more women didn’t vote for the pitchfork poll, it’s probably because even successful, respected female music critics are still treated like dumb girls who wandered into a record store on accident because they thought it was a Claire’s boutique.
Imagine if every unorthodox opinion about music you had, every time you tried to deviate from the party line, people attributed it not to your personal taste or even your trollish personality, but to sheer ignorance.

This is hardly limited to women, but it’s a lot more virulent when women write about this stuff. Ugh.

Mansplaining at its most musical!

thediscography:

theremixbaby:

If you were wondering why more women didn’t vote for the pitchfork poll, it’s probably because even successful, respected female music critics are still treated like dumb girls who wandered into a record store on accident because they thought it was a Claire’s boutique.

Imagine if every unorthodox opinion about music you had, every time you tried to deviate from the party line, people attributed it not to your personal taste or even your trollish personality, but to sheer ignorance.

This is hardly limited to women, but it’s a lot more virulent when women write about this stuff. Ugh.

Mansplaining at its most musical!

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“I’ve never lifted a hand to a women [sic], I’ve never done anything negative to a women [sic], I’ve always been monogamous,” Carolla told TheDC. “I have a daughter who I love very much, I hire women, I’ve worked with women, I’ve never had an issue with women.”

“I’m a misogynist?” he continued. “Go ask my female producer from my morning show who I worked with for three years or my female producer for ‘Loveline’ for 10 years if I’m a misogynist. Go ask my female boss essentially, what I’ve ever done to them. And the answer is nothing.”

Heyyyy, talk about not getting it. You’ve made an impassioned defense that really just digs your hole deeper. Congratulations!

Adam Carolla: Claims that he’s a misogynist ‘f**king insane’ | The Daily Caller

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Jen Kirkman - comedian: My 73 Year Old Dad On Why Women ARE FUNNY

jenkirkman:

I was emailing with my dad last night and telling him about Adam Carolla’s comments that “dudes are funnier than chicks,” “they make you hire a certain number of chicks, and they’re always the least funny on the writing staff.”

My dad is in his seventies, was raised in the working class town…

This is fucking awesome. Choice quote:

Comedy is not only a man’s game but also a women’s game. Always remember, women understand men but men do not understand women. Therefore, men are taking a back seat and they don’t appreciate that. This is America and people are entitled say what they want - right, wrong or indifferent. Women are usually right more than men.